Manners guides
Thank you notes for kids
A simple template to help kids write thank you notes, from drawings to their own words.
Ages 4 to 12
Children can make a thank you card from age 4 or 5 with a drawing and their name. By 7 or 8 they can write a short note with a simple template, and by 10 they can write one in their own words.
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Why it matters
A thank you note teaches gratitude in a concrete way. It also makes grandparents, friends and teachers feel truly appreciated.
What to expect by age
- Ages 3 to 4
- Draw a picture for the person.
- Add a handprint or their name with help.
- Ages 5 to 6
- Draw a picture and write their name.
- Dictate a sentence for you to write.
- Ages 7 to 8
- Write 3 sentences with a template: thanks, what they liked, a wish.
- Ages 9 to 10
- Write the note on their own, by hand or as a message.
- Ages 11 to 12
- Write personal notes without a template, for gifts and for kindness.
Ways to practice
- Keep a small box of cards and stamps ready after birthdays.
- Write notes together at the kitchen table: you write yours too.
- Take a photo of the gift in use and add it to the note.
Common mistakes
Turning notes into a long chore.
Try instead: 2 or 3 short notes per session is plenty.
Correcting the spelling too much.
Try instead: Let the note look like a child wrote it. That is the charm.
